Setting Limits

What are your limits?

How far will you go to help your brother/sister?

How far will you go to help your mother/father?

How far will you go to help your grandmother/grandfather?

How far will you go to help your best friend?

How far will you go to help a regular friend?

How far will you go to help your neighbor?

How far will you go to help a complete stranger?

How much money would you give each of these people?

How much food and water?

What if your food and water were severely limited, such as in a Katrina-like disaster?

How often will you give them a ride when they ask for it?

When does generosity go from kindness to contracted duty?

When do the requests change from cooperation to parasitizing?

When do you tell other people, “No. I can’t give any more.”?

If they tell you you’re being selfish, do you give in?

If you’re the one doing the giving, why do you feel miserable?

What reason – physical or mental – prevents the person you’re helping from doing it him or herself?

Why are you the only one being asked for help?

Why are you the only one helping?

Where is the line between helping and being used?

Where do YOU draw the line?

Where do you set the limits?

When you can answer these questions, and stand by your answers, then you have set limits.

When you set limits, you can concentrate on making your life better.

The limits aren’t for you. They’re for other people. You are limiting THEIR control over your life. Setting limits immediately gives you more control over your own life. Setting limits, and enforcing those limits for yourself and others, is a key step in getting control over your finances. YOU decide how much you can give, and when, and where. Because if you give more than your budget can handle, then you put yourself in debt.

If you put yourself in debt, then you have to go find someone else who hasn’t answered all these questions — and persuade them to help you.

So, where do YOU set the limits?

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